The Joys of Aftercare

Late this April's eve, as I shake the ice in my glass that's now empty of spirits; I have a flash of memory. To a younger (and stupider) Xeno. I had just stumbled and fell to my knees. My eyes wouldn't focus on anything. My whole body was just shaking, twitching and wouldn't respond to any command. Up was down, down was out and I didn't know if I was silent or screaming bloody murder at the world.

(Did I love it? Hmmm well if you don't know the answer to that than you must have stumbled onto this page)

As I laid there (...well memory is still a little fuzzy. I still can't remember if I was lying down, standing up or even standing on my head.) Anyways, as I...existed there, I was wondering, where was my Mistress? I was fighting/riding waves of wonderful colors of pain and sensation and insanity. While in the meanwhile, reality was slipping away through my teeth and there was nothing to latch on to. No body to hold, no voice to grasp. There was no one to help ease me out of this strange and wonderful kaleidoscope of sensation. And so, poor younger Xeno had to deal with his subspace many a times by himself as his....misguided (see I'm being nice!) mistress either watched or did her own thing

So what is the value of aftercare? I mean why not let your beautiful submissive know that as they have their brains leaking out through their pores, that their wonderful sir/ma'am is taking care of them. Making sure that there is someone to latch onto in case that sensation (also known as the "oh gods") gets a bit too real, to intense. Isn't it a wonderful feeling to know that there's someone to help guide you back into rationality instead having to fight your way back to the real world.

To me, Aftercare (note the capital)shows all the love and affection the dominate/sir/ma'am/master/mistress has for their precious submissives/pets/toys/servant/slaves. Not only is it in the words that are said but in the actions that are taken that determines what kind of dominatrix a person is going to be.

In that moment a submissive person is most trusting, most sensitive to anything that happens to them. It's like a form of hypnotism in what can be imprinted during those moments. Whatever words spoken or actions performed in that moment while affect them deeply and truly.

Unfortunately it's a very easy way to screw your submissive up. So my advice to a sub, you got to trust that whoever is going to put you in that moment is going to do good by you. And to a dom, remember that whatever energy you put out into the universe gets returned to you three fold.

With Love and Lust,
From the man of a thousand Kinks,
The Delightfully Decadent Xeno